Unfinished Business: Doing the right thing., by Lee Kravitz. People with unfinished business often resent the past and because of this are unable to focus on the here and now. It is tough to know whether the perceived potential is real or we are clinging only to the idea of it. Business items that were on the “unfinished business” list in your previous meeting but were still not taken up before adjournment. Children instinctively know how to deal with difficult feelings. Unfinished business with my ex I'm not sure this is in the right place but I couldn't decide where to put it. There is potential, but we are stuck. My ex and I broke up late last december, he ended things because he didn't feel he was in a place to offer me what I needed. In the days and weeks ahead many thoughts and feelings will come up, again and again. Unfinished business limits our ability to connect with ourselves and others. Relationships have a way of persisting even after a physical separation; with imaginary conversations drudging up old wounds - the unfinished Business. It happens a lot when a relationship doesn’t advance at the pace we would like it to proceed. It can feel like you will always have the feelings you are having. I think it means that breaking up is a process not an event. With other relationships, we feel the complete opposite. We all seek answers to the hardships we go through and mostly it’s after a good amount of time that we are able to understand why it happened. It’s like looking at a building that is clearly unfinished, without any scaffolding or construction workers who plan to continue. Unfinished business can leave a hole in a relationship with someone else. One technique I use with people is writing letters. Unfinished by definition. You will get your answers only with time and so all you can do is wait. There were two examples of unfinished business, interfering in two marital relationships, that I saw this week. Sometimes we have the feeling of incompletion because it merely is not finished yet. In one, the wife could not understand how her husband had blown up over one little thing-a death in the family would necessitate them making a sudden, unplanned trip of about 3000 miles-disrupting the plans they already had. Research has shown that unfinished business is associated with anxiety, depression, and interpersonal problems. Unfinished business includes the following items, which are considered in the order listed: Any item (not a special order) that was pending when the previous meeting adjourned. It’s an eye sore, cluttering up the horizon. It’s as if a part of us is waiting for closure even though we know, and understand, that it’s over. Many of us have at least one relationship that ended, but we still feel as if something is unfinished. 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