We all seek answers to the hardships we go through and mostly it’s after a good amount of time that we are able to understand why it happened. Unfinished business: Unfinished business refers to people who do not finish things in their lives and is often related to people with a “growth disorder” (Seligman, 2006). Business items that were on the “unfinished business” list in your previous meeting but were still not taken up before adjournment. There is potential, but we are stuck. Unfinished by definition. There were two examples of unfinished business, interfering in two marital relationships, that I saw this week. Unfinished Business: Doing the right thing., by Lee Kravitz. With other relationships, we feel the complete opposite. However, they are often taught by parents and society to not cry or be angry. It is tough to know whether the perceived potential is real or we are clinging only to the idea of it. It’s as if a part of us is waiting for closure even though we know, and understand, that it’s over. Children instinctively know how to deal with difficult feelings. People with unfinished business often resent the past and because of this are unable to focus on the here and now. Relationships have a way of persisting even after a physical separation; with imaginary conversations drudging up old wounds - the unfinished Business. Research has shown that unfinished business is associated with anxiety, depression, and interpersonal problems. You will get your answers only with time and so all you can do is wait. It’s like looking at a building that is clearly unfinished, without any scaffolding or construction workers who plan to continue. It’s an eye sore, cluttering up the horizon. In one, the wife could not understand how her husband had blown up over one little thing-a death in the family would necessitate them making a sudden, unplanned trip of about 3000 miles-disrupting the plans they already had. Unfinished business can leave a hole in a relationship with someone else. It happens a lot when a relationship doesn’t advance at the pace we would like it to proceed. Many of us have at least one relationship that ended, but we still feel as if something is unfinished. Unfinished business with my ex I'm not sure this is in the right place but I couldn't decide where to put it. Sometimes we have the feeling of incompletion because it merely is not finished yet. It can feel like you will always have the feelings you are having. One technique I use with people is writing letters. I think it means that breaking up is a process not an event. My ex and I broke up late last december, he ended things because he didn't feel he was in a place to offer me what I needed. 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